Getting Started

If you are at all interested in Dreams, Diet and Dialogue, here are some opening questions that are designed to get you thinking.

FOOD QUESTIONS

  1. How much money you spend on "unwanted" food (i.e. food you will regret). Make an estimate (e.g. per month). Please bring your estimate to the first group.
  2. What are your earliest memories of eating? (What?, Why?,Who with?
  3. Did people in your family express love through food?
  4. Did they punish through food?
  5. Can YOU feel "fat" and desirable and successful at the same time?
  6. When you start a new diet, do you keep it a secret or do you share it i. only with close friends or ii. with everyone?

HABIT QUESTIONS: TRAIN WITHOUT PAIN

Eating is frequently an automatic habit: we only notice afterwards that we were on autopilot when we opened the refrigerator. In that respect it is similar to many other habits. By studying our other habits we can "train without pain" -- learn to change our habits on the easy tasks before we take on the gigantic task of our changing our dieting habits.

  1. How many times a day do you check your email?
  2. How easy is it for you to stop partway thru a book or movie (1. when you are enjoying the story and 2. when you are not)
  3. When you leave the house, how many times do you have to go back in before you actually take off?

These questions intentionally have nothing to do with diet but are about how you handle interruptions. In order to change your cycle of overeating (which starts with a purchase), you have to be able to interrupt  that cycle somewhere.  How you handle interruptions in the rest of your life will make you aware of how to interrupt your eating cycle.

When you learn to say "No" to reading your email all day you have taught yourself a great deal about. the mechanism to say No to snacking too.

DREAM QUESTIONS

As you fall asleep, ask your dreams to tell you about dieting. It may take time to get responses but it will happen.

Everything rational about dieting has already been said. At the core, there is something irrational going on. As you will see, that's where dreams come in.

There are no fixed rules. We look at your dream and ask what this dream has to to tell us about our food habits. Eventually (often the first time) you get answers.

 It might be simple and direct: Jacky dreamed she was lonely and sad but everyone she went to offered her the same cookie. It might be through a bodily experience: When Jane told a dream that involved her best friend and her worst boss she got two entirely different feelings in her gut. It might be a veiled warning. When I dreamed about carrying a ladder up to the roof of a building, I realized it was saying that my bad eating habit was "going thru the roof" as they say.

 

 

 

David Jenkins 2014